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natelyswhore:

zezzabutram:

Hmm, this is what I need to work on.
catsluck:

An excerpt from Infinite Relationships
If you’re interested in open relationships, I would highly recommend this zine. It’s a good introduction and super easy to read. To me, this excerpt really stuck out because it’s something that I’ve been having conversations and thinking about within the past couple weeks. I’ve never questioned the dynamic of friends and partners in terms of them being two seperate entities, but it’s really important to me that I personally critique the relationships that I have and try to understand in general how and why this dynamic exists. If y’all are interested in talking about any of this, I would be really into that!

Well, this is pretty awesome. It’s also what I’ve spent the last year and a half thinking about.

There’s a version of the whole zine that’s easier to read on a screen here.

zezzabutram:

Hmm, this is what I need to work on.

catsluck:

An excerpt from Infinite Relationships

If you’re interested in open relationships, I would highly recommend this zine. It’s a good introduction and super easy to read. To me, this excerpt really stuck out because it’s something that I’ve been having conversations and thinking about within the past couple weeks. I’ve never questioned the dynamic of friends and partners in terms of them being two seperate entities, but it’s really important to me that I personally critique the relationships that I have and try to understand in general how and why this dynamic exists. If y’all are interested in talking about any of this, I would be really into that!

Well, this is pretty awesome. It’s also what I’ve spent the last year and a half thinking about.

There’s a version of the whole zine that’s easier to read on a screen here.

Tags: relationships how to win at life

Darnielle: For years, I’ve written narrators who aren’t gender-identified. When I do autobiographical stuff, that’s different, obviously. But I’ve always tried to keep my songs as potentially not a man’s thing. I think so many rock songs you assume by default it’s a man’s thing. That’s a weakness of narrative. And when I was younger, my early songs employed this trope that is popular to this day with indie singer-songwriters, where a guy is gonna hurt himself or do something drastic and appalling in order to show the object of his affection how intense his love for her is.

Paste: And we’re supposed to celebrate his self-destruction.

Darnielle: Yeah! And you’re supposed to think that’s amazing when these guys tell these stories: “Oh, he broke something, he hurt somebody, he did something rash; his love must have been so great!” instead of, “Oh no, he’s a psycho.” When I was younger, I did those too. And then I thought, that’s kinda bullshit to tell stories like that. I try not to write songs in which men glamorize their own need for approval from women. That’s kinda a bogus way to go out. But I try to do this quietly, I’m not about to go around telling people how they should or shouldn’t think. My feminism is for me.

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John Darnielle interview, Paste Magazine (via annierachel) (via fuckyeahthemountaingoats)

That’s what I’m talking about. Especially the “Oh no, he’s a psycho” part.

Tags: gender relationships john darnielle feminism the mountain goats